Updated: Jun 20, 2020
Whether we believe it or not, our lives are magical. What stands in our way of seeing it is us. We've been told so many times that we're not good enough that we have actually started believing it. Here's the thing, all of those people, it doesn't matter what they think about us. What matters is what we think about ourselves.
How We See Ourselves
I know, a lot of how we see ourselves comes from when we were in school. It usually begins in middle school. It does sometimes start earlier. We knew when it happened, others may not have noticed, but we felt it. The whispers, the stares, the giggles, the pointing, the leaving us out... It hurts even now when I mention it. We often never knew what "they" said, we just let our mind race with all "they" might have said. I know this was what I did, let my mind race. I hated school for this reason. I never talked about it either because then "they" would have more to talk about.
"It's like water down a duck's back." -Lynda Layson
My mom always told me, "it's like water down a duck's back," just let it roll off. That was hard to do, but I did it every day. That's what the world saw, but it crushed me on the inside. There are still some days that I have to let the water run down my back. As adults it is a shame that we still have to deal with the pettiness of other adults. I say this so you will know that I really do know where you are coming from.
My water took me to a new town and a new life. Once this occured, I finally became the person I was meant to be. I learned to believe in myself even when no one else did. I found that no one should have the power to make me feel less than what I am. Once I realized that the power shifts and doors open, lights come on. All is possible
Looking for the Positive
Once I moved, I began looking for the positive in situations where others would only see the negative. When I woke up, I would be thankful that I woke, had a home to come back to daily, a job, and a beautiful daughter. I knew she needed me AND she needed to see the positive role model. She did not need to hear about or see the struggles of an adult. That was not her place. She was only a child.
Flipping the Switch
Everyone's situation is different, but going from negative to positive is like flipping a switch. You make the conscious effort to turn the lights on. You can make the conscious effort to live in the positive. It is, however, your choice to make.
A Challenge for You
I have another challenge for you. For the next 30 days when you wake up write 3 reasons you need to be positive for today. At the end of the day write 3 positive things you did. They say it takes 28 days of a repeated action to create a habit. Let's make this a new habit.
I am attaching Positive Vibes sheet for you to use or you can create your own.